If I am Missing or Dead

I read a great book over the weekend called "If I am Missing or Dead": based on a true story and written by Janine Latus. Domestic Violence Center is bringing Janine to Cleveland as our keynote speaker for the Break the Silence Luncheon in October. I was fascinated with her candor, honesty and ability to articulate the impact of the emotional abuse in her marriage. She writes about her childhood and the things she learned about a woman's worth at a young age. The pain in her book is not only for herself, but for her sister, Amy- who wound up missing - and then dead. This is what inspires Janine to speak out.

In viewing a clip of Janine, I heard her say "My sister and I were not honest with each other about what was happening in our relationships". She then went on to say something that is worth repeating: "Speak up and risk the anger of a loved one that you think or know is a victim in an abusive relationship." Let them know you love them so much that you cannot remain silent and that you are concerned for their safety. The victim may become defensive - but it may give them something to think about. If said with love and concern - and not in the heat of anger or frustration - which is often the case - perhaps they will realize that there is help and there can be a safe way out if done with help. Please give them our 24-hour Helpline at 216-391-HELP - and let them know they are not alone - unfortunately, not by a long shot.